If You Think You Have A Problem, You’re Probably Right
by Michael Walsh
If you think you have a problem, you probably do. Whether it's the money you don't have in your bank account, a toxic relationship you are trying to let go of, or your concerning relationship with alcohol or drugs.
That feeling, deep down in your body that something's not right is in fact your barometer of truth.
And, sometimes the truth is scary. But why is that?
For as long as humans have lived we have created and passed down meaning and beliefs. We have become master survivalists and learned that pain is bad, fear is dangerous and that in order to be lovable you must achieve, succeed, and be in control.
We have also mastered the art of deferring pain and discomfort. If you have a headache, take a pill. If you feel self conscious, have a drink. If you are in a mid-life crisis, buy a convertible and land a partner 20 years younger than yourself.
Often, with knowing that things need to change comes a mental barrage of fear, stigmas, negative beliefs and what if’s. Uncertainty, pain and shame scare us, so we avoid, defer and hope it goes away.
It seems reasonable enough, but what if there was a different way?
What if moving in the direction of the discomfort is the thing that would empower and free you? What if your self doubt is made up – old and self-limiting beliefs that keep you from living a life filled with the things you value most – friendships, family, and peace.
If there is one universal truth, it is that change is inevitable. In every moment of our lives the very matter that we are made of is changing – our cells are growing and dying, our heart is pumping and our breath is rhythmically flowing in and out. We are by our very nature, hard-wired for change.
But here’s the kicker – change takes time. The process of lasting and sustainable change looks different for everyone, and there are as many methods for change as there are people on this planet.
If you have fought and you have lost, keep going. If you have kept going and it is not working, find another way and keep going! Most importantly, if you are carrying the weight of your struggles by yourself – reach out and ask for help, because your happiness and your life matter.
Getting started with a Sober Coach and Interventionist
I’m a Certified and Credentialed Addiction Recovery Coach & Interventist with extensive knowledge in the field of substance use disorders. I’ve been trained by some of the best in the field and continue to remain active in various recovery communities both in Canada, and internationally.
If you’re looking for help to stop drinking, help to moderate drinking, or support in dealing with a substance use concern of any kind, please feel free to reach out to me. I offer one-on-one recovery coaching, family support, and drug and alcohol intervention services.
I offer a no-charge consult call to anyone who has questions about their own substance use, or the substance use of a family member. These calls are completely confidential with no pressure to make a decision before you feel entirely ready.
And if you’re still wondering, “do I have a drinking problem?”, please check out this blog post, where you’ll find helpful steps for evaluating the role that alcohol plays in your life. If you want to know more about how to help someone with a substance use concern please read my article about deploying the CRAFT Model of Addiction.
I’d also like to invite you to read more about my personal story here.
If you’re ready to explore the potential of working together, I’d love to chat. Michael is based in Victoria British Columbia Canada and as of June 26, 2022 the other Recovery Coaches on the team are based in Nanaimo, Vancouver, Calgary, Edmonton, Toronto, Montreal and Halifax. Because we all work virtually — we can work with anyone no matter what city, province or country around the world. We have clients in Seattle, Los Angeles, Dallas, Miami, New York City, Denver, Nashville, Berlin, Tel Aviv, London, Singapore and Australia.
Michael Walsh
Phone or Text: 250.896.8494
Email: Coach@MichaelWalsh.com
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About the Author
Michael Walsh
When I say I’ve been there, I mean it. I am a different person now, and I am fired up about helping other people get to the place where they, too, are living better, healthier, and bigger lives.
