You’ve been drinking or consuming drugs to excess — and it’s showing. Your life is beginning to fray at the edges and you recognize that you’re in or on the verge of a downward spiral. Perhaps things are not so bad but they could get worse and you want to avoid that.
You want to change your current situation but you are overwhelmed.
It feels like it’s too much to do on your own.
Let’s do this together.
With the guidance of an experienced Sober Coach (also known as Recovery Coach) and a clear plan in place, you can absolutely change your situation..
What is Sober Coaching?
Sober Coaching is a collaborative, strengths-based approach to changing your relationship to alcohol or drugs, getting healthy and to a better place in your life.
Changing your relationship to alcohol and drugs is no small feat, and every person comes to recovery with a different idea of what they want to achieve. When you hire me as your Sober Coach — we are working together to identify and design a customized individual change-plan – with your goals, your schedule, and a better life in mind.
If you’re saying yes to alcohol or drugs, what are you saying no to?
Sober Coaching FAQs
How does Sober Coaching work?
We’ll arrange an initial “no-charge” 15-minute consultation by phone to help determine if Sober Coaching is right for you. I’ll ask you to provide (confidentially) a bit of your drinking or drug consumption history, any help or treatment you've already tried, where you're currently at and what your goals might be if we work together.
From there, we get down to work and begin developing plans and objectives to:
- Create and enhance relapse prevention strategies
- Create a disciplined change-plan
- Works towards developing self-confidence and self-esteem in this new lifestyle; and look at life beyond substance use, addiction and recovery
Once the early objectives are established, we work to make recovery worthwhile by re-creating a lifestyle that complements your goals whether full abstinence or not.
What makes Sober Coaching such a strong approach?
Short answer: accountability! (and planning and working with someone who has personal and professional experience)
Throughout the entire process we place greater focus and awareness on the personal choices, actions, and responsibilities related to your lifestyle change. You identify what you need, what you want, and how you are going to get there.
Believe it or not, the easy part is quitting drinking or using drugs. The hard part is learning how to recreate your life without substances.
As we work together and your recovery journey unfolds, a natural accountability partnership develops. This is the space where you are supported, and held accountable for your process-of-change.
This accountability partnership can be one of the most effective tools in sustaining long-term recovery maintenance. I assist you every step of the way, including providing support in between sessions via text or telephone.
You’re about to recreate your life and it’s not always simple. I’m there when the rubber hits the road. Call it sobriety for hire.
Where do we meet?
I can work with anyone, anywhere. In person, by phone/text, or online and a combination of all of that. I do travel to work with some clients upon request.
If you live in Victoria, Duncan and Nanaimo we’ll do a combination of in-person and tele-coaching. If you live outside of those areas I can travel to you if required or we can meet over the phone, or connect through email, text, and/or Skype, FaceTime or Zoom.
Is Sober Coaching right for me?
You do not need to hit “rock bottom” to benefit from the support of an experienced and compassionate Sober Coach, you just need to want more out of your life. I work with both women and men.
This journey isn’t just about quitting a particular substance. It’s about creating a lifestyle that is free from problematic substance use so that you can live a more authentic life.
Does this sound familiar?
Over the time that I have been working as a Sober Coach, I’ve found that individuals seeking support often fall into one of four general categories.
I've listed these categories below, accompanied with the variety of support that you would generally receive from my Sober Coaching services.
Read the following profiles and see if any of these resonate with your current experience. If you don’t align completely with the stories here, it’s okay: everybody’s process is unique!
Client A: “I’ve hit a wall.”
Alcohol or drugs have become so problematic that life around you is crumbling.
Maybe you’re in denial or are hiding the amount you’re consuming. Your relationships are crumbling, your body is screaming for you to stop, there are problems at work, and you could be facing financial strains, especially if you’re moving money around – or even stealing it – to support your consumption.
If you’re there, it’s okay. Now you’re here. We’re going to get you out.
We’ll talk about your concerns, your needs, and together we’ll customize a change-plan. It’s discreet and confidential to just you and me, unless you want others to be part of your process (which can be helpful). We’ll take a multifaceted approach. Some of the components of your plan "may" include:
- Weekly Sober Coaching sessions
- Medical detox
- In-patient residential or out-patient treatment
- Sober transportation to in-patient treatment
- Post-treatment aftercare
- Sober Companions
- Clinical counselling
- Developing a recovery network
- Managing the transition from inpatient residential treatment back to work and home
- Relapse-prevention strategies
- Text and telephone support in between sessions
Client B: “I’m getting worried about this.”
Whether it’s alcohol, hard drugs, or prescription medications, you’re using to the point that it has become somewhat problematic and you’d like to do something about it.
You need to take a look at your current relationship to drugs and/or alcohol. It may be limiting your ability to excel in your field of work. Your colleagues may have been mentioning something about your alcohol use at work events. You may notice you are not quite at the top of your game.
You’re definitely willing to sit down, take a hard look at where you’re at, and set some goals for where you’d rather to be.
You might not be ready to completely stop – and that’s okay. I work with people wherever they are at.
My work with you here involves a lifestyle change rather than a clinical approach. You "might" not need counselling – but you’ll benefit from the one-on-one, goal-oriented accountability framework that Sober Coaching offers. You’ll be surprised at how powerfully our weekly 30-45 minute sessions will shift you off your current path and put you into a place of strength and positive choice. Text and telephone support in between sessions is also provided.
Client C: “I’m concerned about someone else.”
You’re a family member, loved one, friend, colleague, business owner, or manager of someone who has a problem with alcohol or drugs.
You can’t change their behavior, but with the right tools you’ll get a better idea about why your loved one or staff member behaves the way they do.
You will also learn about:
- Positive communication
- Positive reinforcement
- Setting appropriate boundaries
- Problem-solving skills to better your relationship with your loved one
- How to navigate what is often a one-toned, ideologically-tinged treatment system
- Available treatment approaches, settings, and medications that can be difficult to encounter through traditional channels
- How to take better care of yourself and shift the focus from your care-giving role so you can move forward with your life
- Text and telephone support in between sessions is also provided.
Client D: I want to moderate
This is tricky. I sometimes get asked if I'm OK with moderation. I would need to assess the circumstances.
Most people come to me because drinking or drug use is impacting their lives and often the lives of others in a negative way. They also come to me because they have a genuine desire to stop altogether. But, not always. One has to decide whether the benefits of drinking or drug use outweigh the benefits of not consuming those substances. More often than not, the benefits of not consuming far outweigh the alternative.
It really is a personal choice. Sometimes clients may not be ready to stop cold-turkey and that's ok. I can work with that. A question could be: how do you show up in the world as a consumer of alcohol or drugs? Are you happy with that person? Does that person affect others in a negative way.
Often we will get to the place where my clients see that abstinence is a better way to be. I am open-minded in who I work with.
We will explore the best approach for you that will likely include only 1:1 Sober Coaching. I will get you to identify trigger-points for your consumption of alcohol or drugs and get you to complete daily logs for a month to track trends and impacts of said consumption. We could work together for a few months and measure various markers for growth and see what's working and what's not working.